dating

How ridiculous is it that if you feel as though you shouldn't date someone anymore, you have to have a REASON for not feeling you should date that person? Ok, so maybe its not too far out there. I usually want to know the reasons why people don't want to date me, but I can usually figure them out, based on the reasons I'VE broken up with people before. Well I have something to say dang it! I have never broken up with someone for the sole reason that I met someone else whom I decided I would rather be with while I was still with the one person. Nor have I ever broken up with someone for someone else's "sweet ride", cash flow, looks, living location, etc. The main reasons I have ever broken up with anyone is primarily because of something feeling wrong about the situation. I don't usually figure out the reasons things were wrong until years later. I'm slow, I know. I get attached to certain people way to easily and believe or not, I want to still be their friend and be supportive of them, but when they go and say nonsense stuff about my motivation for moving on... well well well my friends... thats just no good. Dating is a bit of an annoying thing. I don't WANT to date so that I don't have to deal with heartache when it all ends, yet I don't want to be alone either. Its a bit of a lose - lose situation. Sometimes I wonder if arranged marriages are really that bad of an idea. You can always GROW to love someone if you have to spend the rest of your life and beyond with them, right?